Do you have anger and negative emotions in the workplace?
"One day when you reach office, suddently you hear from your boss that your favorite project is cancelled after several days/weeks of hardwork ; your co-worker/friend is fired suddenly; or you are overloaded with work and your boss assigns you even more. If so, be aware that you are not alone. As working class people, we have all been in one of these heart breaking situations before."
When you go through a stressful situation in your personal life, your reaction would be to start yelling, crying, or feeling a burst inside your head or to hide in a room and feel sorry for yourself. But at the workplace all these behaviors might adversely affect your reputation, and your productivity. At the same time, it can also cause serious health problems, including heart diseases, high blood pressure, chronic anxiety and depression.
No matter where you work, stressful situations are common in a workplace that faces financial cuts, department change, weak market opportunities and employee layoffs. Maintaining emotional composure under these circumstances may become harder, but it is more important for you to do so, because it is always expected in the professional setting. Even though the management is forced to make more layoffs, they prefer to keep those people who can handle their emotions and work under pressure. Remember that, no matter what the situation is, your are always free to choose how you react to it.
Why are you angry?
I have got chances to speak with employees (most of them are my friends ) from a variety of organizations about their anger/negative emotions at work. I have noted that usually, one or more of the following have caused the anger.
- Your favorite project is cancelled suddenly after several days/weeks of hard work
- You were promised to be included in an important project, and it never happened
- Team leader or supervisor criticized you frequently
- You were insulted for your work style
- Lack of support at work/project
- Team leader or supervisor's expectations are too high or constantly changing but you can't live up to their expectations
- You feel better skilled or educated (qualified) than your senior staff
- Junior employees try to act smart with you
- A colleague doing the same job as you and making more money
- Job insecurity
Sometimes the anger could also be carried over to your workplace from various other situations, for example, you are dealing with a hardtime in your personal life, financial crisis, illness, death in the family, divorce, relationship break-up can all cause irritations. Unfortunately, only a few among us are trained to deal with loss and stressful situations, and others bury those feelings that can turn to anger or rage overtime.
- to be continued.
In my next article - Steps to Control Your Anger Effectively